"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." 2 Timothy 1:7 |  |
"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." 2 Timothy 1:7 | |
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Sometimes the word "insecurity" when we use it to describe weaknesses or problems in relationships is not understood clearly. It tends to be a little cloudy as to how we can stop being "insecure". What does "insecurity" mean? Here are the definitions from Merriam Webster: 1: not confident or sure : uncertain
2: not adequately guarded or sustained : unsafe
3: not firmly fastened or fixed : shaky
4 a: not highly stable or well-adjusted b: deficient in assurance : beset by fear and anxiety
What a list of negatives! I really think we need to understand what being insecure is because we are beset by it in our society in so many ways. Why are we so unsure of ourselves and so afraid to stand up for what we believe is right for us? Why do we fear to be ourselves and to let others be themselves in relationships? Personal power is the solution to insecurity. I believe you can't become the powerful person you have the potential to be unless you are firmly established in God. The first definition which says:1.. 'not confident or sure, uncertain' pertains to a person who doesn't know who they are and what they are capable of. If their foundaion was in God, they would know that He is the author of their confidence and Christ in their personal Christ consciousness is their identity. They are uncertain and can't make a firm stand on anything because the values and principles they live their life by are vague and not based on God's truth. They need to get in touch with what they believe to be true and align these beliefs or values with the word of God and what they feel in their heart is right. 2.. 'not adequately guarded or sustained,unsafe' describes a person who doesn't trust God for their safety and protection. We trust locks, guns and guard dogs before we trust God. **We shut ourselves away emotionally from others so we won't get hurt. When we trust God, we can keep our heart open to others and let the work of redemption take place in our soul. It takes a lot of resolve to stay vulnerable and trust God to keep us safe.The Bible is full of promises telling us to trust God and He will care for us and be our strong tower. Read Psamls 91 and know it is true. 3.. The dictionary definition stating: 'not firmly fastened or fixed : shaky' is a good representation of someone who's inner *foundation is not based on faith in God. When God has become your life and He is the guide who directs your steps all of the time through your higher consciousness, you can stand strong on what you believe is true. We need to be 'firmly fixed' in His love and the power of His strength. The last part of the definition: 4.. not highly stable or well-adjusted, deficient in assurance,beset by fear and anxiety describes someone who feels powerless, unappreciated and rejected for who they are. They have never found that place inside themselves where they learn to love and trust their own being and instead focus on others to meet their needs. When we trust God and know He is in control, we are secure in him. When we know He is always there for us, we can feel free to be ourselves, be the person we really are with no excuses to anyone.We know our thoughts and feelings are important and are able to sort them out and find what is true ourselves. We have the power of 'will' which is our God given right to make choices. We don't have to do anything we don't feel is right. We can change our circumstances and the situations we keep encountering if we will make a strong stand for truth. When we know our thoughts and words carry power, we need to be careful what we think and speak. We should only think about and talk about what we want to come to pass, whether it is about ourselves or others. When we think loving thoughts about ourselves and others, it changes our personal energy field from negative to positive. We need to remember though, that love does not mean aquisience and giving in, it means caring, honoring and respecting. It is not sentimental and indulgent, Sometimes it is standing up and expecting something better from your loved one or letting them pay the consequences of their behavior. We've all heard of tough love. God disciplines us because he loves us and expects something better of us than the same old negative patterns. We have a responsibility to be strong in defense of the truth. It doesn't help anyone to let them indulge in their offenses and continue dishonoring themselves and others. When we let someone disrespect us or dishonor us, we lose our power quickly. If we trust God and live from our heart and not our emotional outbursts, we will know how to answer anyone through the power of God who is the source of our personal power. A lot of insecurity stems from not being sure about what we believe. We let that little point of fear through unsureness come in and that is what gives Satan an inroad to cause trouble. Our beliefs are just as important as anyone else's and should never be negated. Maybe we are mistaken but we will find that out ourselves if we are willing to listen, learn, pray and gain wisdom. We should not let another's beliefs override ours without learning more about it and coming to our own consclusions as to its worth. The Bible is so full of wisdom about trust and faith. When we surrender our lives to God, He will become our security and fulfillment. When He brings people and situations to us instead of us doing it through old patterns of trying to meet our own needs, it will be a blessing. Our troubles are brought on because we run around trying to please and satisfy ourselves ...or we fear losing something that we think is so important to us. We should continually surrender all people and things we possess or think are ours to God so we won't be holding on to something or someone that doesn't belong to us. Insecurity causes us to cling to people and things that are no longer meant for us or maybe never were. *The basis of our foundation in God is our belief system that has been transformed from life-negating beliefs to belief in God's laws. ...*"The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul"; our values and principles that we know in our heart are right and true and line up with the word of God are our solid foundation in life and when we stand on them and refuse sin, they 'convert' our soul (our mind, will and emotions) so that we are able to live out of our higher consciousness or Christ consciousness. We can only follow through with this stand by relying entirely on the strength of God, not ourselves. Our own strength, such as it is, only gets in the way. It is the surrender of our own actions to try to make ourselves change, to letting God do it instead that 'makes the change happen'. This is why it takes so long for spiritual advancement. We want it so badly we can't get out of the way and stop trying to accomplish it ourselves. All of this striving is fruitless. **It just makes it take longer and we suffer more as God allows us to go through more cycles of sin until we truly surrender it to Him and let Him set us free from it forever. *7- The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple. 8- The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart: the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes. 9- The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring for ever: the judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether. 10- More to be desired are they than gold, yea, than much fine gold: sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb. 11-Moreover by them is thy servant warned: and in keeping of them there is great reward. 12- Who can understand his errors? cleanse thou me from secret faults. 13- Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression. 14- Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer. psalms 19: 7-14 |
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