If someone shares their love with us it is entirely of their own volition and nothing we can do can make them do it or not do it. It is entirely from their heart
When we share love with another, it activates the love within them and multiplies and returns to us. So we are both getting more love than what we started with. Even if they choose to not share their love with us we still have the abundance we started with which is God and will never leave us
Meditate on the love within yourself instead of desiring it from someone else and it will multiply within you and overflow to others
When you are content and enjoying the love within yourself which is God, you automatically release it to those around you and they can choose to share it or not but it won't matter to you because you already have all you need
If we feel as though we aren't loved, it is because we have closed off the love within ourselves that is God within us. It is there but we are afraid to accept that it is ours because we don't know its ours and that it is God. We think love has to come to us from others because we don't have any and that's how we're supposed to get it. But we already have it and we can't ever get it from someone else because if someone shares their love with us, it just activates and multiplies what we already have and multiplies what they already have and still have.
When we give something away, we don't have it any more. If we give a friend a book we enjoyed, we no longer have that book. Not so with love. We can't give away the love we have because it never goes away, it always stays and is always a part of us, it only multiplies and expands into more, the more we share it. The more we share it, the more it expands in others and the more they share etc.
The exciting part is that ultimately all love is one and the same in everyone, God. God is love and life and as we multiply that love and life by expressing it with others and sharing it and letting the abundance flow freely, we are expressing God and are expressions of God in the world.
So we should never be afraid to love whenever it offers itself for sharing in whatever expression it presents itself because it is God inviting us into Him and asking to be invited into our souls. It is pure love when motivation is unselfish and without demands. We know when it is pure because it makes our heart sing. Joy is the result of sharing love.
Falling in love is not what we think it is. It is simply corresponding energy co-relates from emotions and thought patterns that coincide in two people. When two people have very intense energy flows because of emotional instabilities that match up, they feel very strong emotions and passions. This energy draws them together and they become mirrors of each other's insecurities and fears.
If they learn about themselves from this and try to understand why they are feeling as they do when problems arise, they can mature to a place where they make a commitment to each other and can share love rather than demand it from each other.
As I said above, we can't get love from another person. In fact most of the problems in society come from people trying to get love rather than accepting what they have and sharing it. Difficulties arise when one or each person feels they are being short changed in the giving love department. Neither are giving love in that case because you can't give love, you can only share what you have.
Loving is a choice. We all have love and we have an inner drive to share it but fear stops us because we think if we give it, we will somehow lose it like the book we gave our friend. We think we need to have others give it to us but they can't. They can only share it if and when they choose to
Sometimes when the pain gets too intense from the reflections of our fears, we leave the relationship and find a new one and start over. We are still trying to get love rather than share what we have. There is no solution other than to stop trying to get anything and just love. We need to pay heed to our motivations and how they make us feel. If we are frustrated, angry or striving toward getting our needs met, we are trying to get love.
If we are trying to get our love needs met by pulling energy out of others for our own gratification, we feel bankrupt inside and have no idea that all the love we need is already there. When we begin to share that inner well of love rather than manipulate to try to get it from others, we will find the joy and peace that sharing brings.
There is a huge difference between drawing energy from someone to energize yourself and finding and sharing the love within your own being. A person can be depleted mentally, spiritually and emotionally by energy drains on their psyche even to the point of depression, ill health and death. Our chalkras which represent all the mental, psychic, spiritual and physical aspects of our being are what we draw our personal energy from to live our lives. These powerful energy centers belong to us as part of our own life force and were never meant to be given away or stolen as a replacement for love. Love is God, is meant to be shared, and is the activator upon our energy forces that heals them and directs them as we live our lives, even to the point of preparing us for the life after this one ends.
That is why a person who accepts and freely shares the love within themselves can heal and bless others on a continual basis. But as long as they are trying to get love by taking energy from others rather than share the love they have, they are destroying others rather than healing and helping.They are life stealers rather than life healers.
So you can see why there is no love at all in falling in love. It's all based on outer and inner attraction caused by negative co-relates bringing together common energy flows creating intense emotions and feelings. Both people involved absorb the excess
energy from the process and get romantic highs. It is not love but energy theft. All is fine until one feels they are giving more energy than they are receiving from the other and the mutual admiration society collapses. An energy fight begins and can destroy the relationship without either having any idea it has had nothing at all to do with love.They think the other person doesn't love them anymore when it is really the fact that they are love starving themselves by not accessing their own love resevoir. Loving someone has little to do with whether you feel like it or not but everything to do with making a choice to stay by their side no matter what. This vulnerable open-heart based decision to not turn on or desert your partner in their time of failure regardless of how you feel is what turns the tide.
Romantic love has it's purpose but must evolve into passionate love and then committed love (compassion) for the couple to have a full true love relationship. Ideally, romantic, passionate and committed love can combine into marital bliss as each partner surrenders pride, ego and self-seeking for the enjoyment of freely sharing the love they have within.
When two people are connected within their souls, commonly called soul mates or sometimes balance partners, they have a unique opportunity to work together to set themselves and each other free from the yokes of bondage that continually sabotage their relationships. Making a commitment to their relationship, vowing not to run away when the going gets rough, they can break the patterns and open the door to real love. The most important thing is to let go of pride and the fear of being vulnerable. When we let go of our control and self protection, it can get scary for awhile. We need to have our trust firmly established in God, who is our inner well of love, to be able to truly surrender to our partner.
Sometimes this love reveals to them that they are not meant to have further relationship together but it is preparation for their eternal mates. By this time they are freely loving enough to let each other go without hurt or bitternes of any kind. They wish only joy and blessings on each other as they move into new pathways.
True love comes from within us and is God. When the time comes, it is all we need for complete fulfillment as we unite with our eternal mate and then others in our soul group as we progress up the spiritual ladder of joy and perfection to total union of all life.
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